Wednesday, March 14, 2012
The first time I put a condom on was it the Spencer W Kimball Tower. I wasn't married.
I was a Jr in college. Thankfully, it was a nursing class (can they revoke your degree for past honor code violations, not that I have one... just wondering).
There was a vast amount of giggling and some good banana eating afterwards. All of us verginal gals couldn't figure out why the condom was sticky on the outside. And yes, this is a true story.
Recently, Utah passed a Sex Ed bill. I'm pretty shocked at it.
Do I think that sex ed should happen in schools? No, not really. In a perfect world it would be open and parents would talk freely and often with their kids about keeping their virtue and how virtue is so many more things then just a hymen. And frankly, kids wouldn't have sex, because everyone's parents would've talked about it and be watching.
Here's how it's all working out in my personal mind. We will preach abstinence at home. We preach it, and preach it, and preach it. We talk about it openly and we notice people who haven't practiced it and what messes they're in (aka, teen mom). We talk about it early and often.
But, I kind of plan on schools taking that other part. I figure I don't have to have that awkward moment with the condom and the banana because they're learning it at school. I hope they take what I say, but if they don't, the school is my safety net.
And if, heaven forbid, they decide to act outside what I would call virtuous, sexually, they remember at LEAST what their teacher taught them. Because while I consider virtue a high commodity. I also value health, and not getting pregnant pretty highly also.
I didn't take health class in high school. I took a class called physiology and she mashed health into it as well. I don't think we even talked about birth control (anyone, did we?), I do remember the "love is like a fire, don't get burned" speech. But, the truth is that a fair part of not putting yourself in that position, is having good friends and luck. If I was in that position, my mom had given me the "if you get pregnant you will give that baby up for adoption and it will be the hardest thing you've ever done" talk. I had nothing from school. I think I would've been pretty likely to get pregnant.
Of course, that was a long, long time ago. I am guessing the old T-birds have ramped up that system a bit since then.
I'm just saying that we need help our kids help themselves, and by only talking abstinence, we are hurting them. Although, frankly -- it's good for business. :)
P.S. I guess the issue should be, if schools don't talk about sex ed, do we as parents show our kids how to put condoms on a banana? How do you work that into an FHE lesson? :) I don't think my husband could make it through it....